Impressions: The perfect (non-vibrating) toy for beginners and experts alike. It takes the guesswork out of g-spot stimulation.
Price: $110 from manufactuer, $92 from Wild in Secret
The Pure Wand - like the two other products currently produced by nJoy - is a wonder to behold. 24 ounces of solid medical grade stainless steel polished to a mirror shine and curved into a shape funnily reminiscent of Goliath's navel barbell (right down to the differently sized balls on each end).The beauty of this particular objet d'art is, like all nJoy products, in the details. The solid weight, the bulbous head(s), the graceful curve - all are intended for one purpose: pleasure. It seems a sin to call this beautiful creation a sex "toy;" it seems an insult to something so obviously well-crafted and beautifully designed, so maybe I'll call it a sex object, although that, too, falls short. It truly is an object of art: beautiful to look at and delightful to hold.
Like it's little brothers (or sisters, call them what you will), the Pure Plug and Fun Wand, the Pure Wand looks oh-so-chic - contemporary - masterfully artistic. It wouldn't seem out of place in a contemporary art museum, or resting gracefully on the coffee table at Andy Warhol's Factory, with its elegant curves, mirror shine and contemporary asymmetry.
Looking at this marvel of sexual engineering, I'm impressed by the ingeniousness of the simplicity of this design. The smooth curve of the handle shows its true colors when you insert the Pure Wand into the orifice of your choice (depending on whether you're aiming for the g-spot or prostate): as the Pure Wand is pushed into said orifice, the curved design causes the bulbous head to rock forward, bringing it into direct contact with the very spot you're aiming for.
Now, I've had a lot of issues with finding my g-spot. I've tried everything from dildos to vibrators to fingers and even went so far as to get out a medical textbook and a ruler and measure how far I needed to insert these objects to hit the right area (or where the books and articles I'd read indicated should be the right area) and never had any luck.
I'd get that infamous feeling of having to pee, but instead of it giving way to intense pleasure it did absolutely nothing other than keep me feeling like I had to, well, pee. We're talking half an hour or an hour of this and nothing else, until I'd give up in disgust. Did I need to find my g-spot? No, I was perfectly satisfied with my sex life as it was, but I was curious. Simply put, I just wanted to know what it felt like.
Eventually, all of this (failed) experimentation and frustration, led me to the Pure Wand. I'd read nothing but rave reviews praising the Pure Wand's ability to not only accurately and easily hit the g-spot but lead directly to female ejaculation (something else I've been curious about - I'm a curious girl, always have been), and it seemed to be about the last stop on my journey of trying to find that elusive spot. If the Pure Wand didn't work, nothing would; that was my reasoning going into testing this particular toy. Fatalism or realism? It's hard to say, especially considering that the two so often masquerade as one another, but that was the way I felt.
My first two attempts at actually using the Pure Wand didn't go the way I wanted them to, to be perfectly honest.
The first attempt went something like this: (1) open the sturdy display box and admire the shiny (so shiny) treasure lying in the hot pink (I hate pink, I wish they'd switch colors) satin, (2) lift the Pure Wand from its satin cradle and admire its heftiness, musing only half in jest that it could easily be used to kill someone, (3) take the Pure Wand in the shower, set down and insert it, aiming for the area where I thought my g-spot was supposed to be, (4) wiggle, rock, thrust and generally futz with the Pure Wand, trying to hit the right spot and make the magic happen, (5) wonder when the feeling of having to pee would go away, (6) about half an hour later realize it's not going away, (7) give up in a huff.
The second attempt was a bit better: (1) open the display box and again admire the shininess of the Pure Wand (I like shiny, I'm like a magpie), (2) remove Pure Wand and again marvel at it's beauty and potential for causing damage (I'm sure that says something about me), (3) again, take it in the shower, set down and insert the Pure Wand, aiming a little higher this time, (4) add the vibrations of a double silver bullet to my clit, knowing full well that my body likes clitoral stimulation along with vaginal penetration, (5) end up having to lean the Pure Wand against my leg rather than thrust it because it's apparently impossible for me to use the bullet and move the Pure Wand at the same time, (6) have several lovely orgasms purely from the silver bullet, (7) futz around with the Pure Wand a bit more and then (shockingly)...female ejaculation, completely separate from an orgasm!
Now, that last part was certainly nice, of course. Granted it didn't feel all that spectacular, perhaps because it wasn't connected to an orgasm and just sort of happened, but it's fascinating to see your body do something it's never done before and besides, now I get to say that I've ejaculated. I've got bragging rights now.
While the adventure in female ejaculation was fun, it wasn't anywhere near enough to make me say that the Pure Wand was really working for me. Yes, I thought it was a great toy and ingeniously designed (for someone else), but it wasn't hitting the right spot for me and that was what really mattered.
So before giving up completely on this fascinating piece of sexual technology, I called in my husband for a consult. Go figure, the one person in this relationship who doesn't have a g-spot would be able to find it on the first try and without so much as even a token effort (his finger literally went right to the right spot as soon as he inserted it, damn him). How's that for irony?
After a lot of frustrating, "I don't feel it" and "I don't know what you're talking about" and "How the hell do you find this thing?" and years of fruitless searching, I finally found it, a spongey little area that wasn't anywhere near as far in as I thought it should have been (which may or may not be why I couldn't find it before): my g-spot. Apparently, I need to lie down on my back to find said spot or else it's impossible to locate, which might explain why I was having so many issues with using the Pure Wand the first two times: I was setting down rather than lying down (it's a bit hard to lie down in our shower, mind you).
Which led directly into my tihird attempt to use the Pure Wand: (1) open the pretty box and dump the Wand on the bed, without even stopping to admire the shininess, (2) put a little bit of warming lube on the head of the Wand and insert it, trying to figure out how to translate where I had my fingers into where to place the wand, (3) move it a bit and get that oh-so-annoying feeling of having to pee, (4) decide I can't take that feeling any longer and switch to the double silver bullet for a bit, inserting one bullet into my vagina (where it felt very nice buzzing against my newly discovered g-spot) and holding the other against my clit, (5) switch back to the Pure Wand with my husband at the controls (after correcting him and showing him - oh the irony - how to get it to hit just the right spot) and me working the silver bullet on my clit, (6) multiple, extremely intense g-spot and clitoral orgasms. Fantastic!
So how does one use this oddly shaped sex object you ask? After all, there are no instructions provided in the pamphlet accompanying the Pure Wand. For me, it was fairly intuitive, but I realize that for others it might not be, so I present to you a quick tutorial on how to use your shiny new toy (I'm sure there are other methods, but this is my personal method):
1) If you don't like the feeling of cold steel (I, personally, do, but it's a personal preference thing), warm up the Wand by cupping it in your hands and/or rubbing it or by submersing it in a pan of warm (not hot!) water for a few minutes until it reaches the right temperature.
2) Lube (or don't - again, personal preference) up the bigger end if you're going to be using it for g-spot stimulation or the smaller end if you're going for the prostate (although I imagine you could switch it up and use the opposite end if that works better for you). I'm only going to describe how to use it on the g-spot from here on out since I, obviously, don't have a prostate and can't comment on that.
3) With the curve of the Pure Wand facing away from you (the two balls will be facing you, insert the ball just inside the entrance to your vagina with it pressed against your pubic bone (you'll feel it on the top).
4) Gently push the Wand, letting it hug the pubic bone and it should slide right into place. Just make sure to keep contact with the pubic bone, pressing the wand against it. The Wand should move in a rocking motion as it follows the curve of your pubic bone. You may want to push down on the opposite end of the Wand as it enters to put more pressure on the g-spot.
5) Wash, rinse, repeat. I mean that metaphorically, of course, aside from the repeat part. You get the idea.
I have to say, once I got the technique down pat (which eliminated the guesswork of "How deep do I insert it? and "How do I know it's in the right place until it starts feeling good?"), the Pure Wand was extremely easy to use. The motion it uses is intuitive and the Pure Wand hugs the body's anatomy, making using it simple (and easy to do without thinking about what you're doing).
My only complaints are that there aren't any instructions included (yes, the motion is fairly intuitive, but it would still be nice for those who aren't good at mental imaging and figuring out how the Wand needs to be inserted to make contact with the g-spot) and that the weight of the Pure Wand (and it is heavy), while helpful in making firm contact with the g-spot, can be extremely tiring for the muscles in your arm. I'm in fairly good shape and my arms are fairly strong, but using the Pure Wand for an extended period of time is extremely fatiguing.
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